Where Did You Leave Your Life?

Especially women tend to leave their lives at the entrance to motherhood, marriage, or earlier when becoming a daughter.

Are you one of these women who gave up their life for others, and who wants to start living for yourself now? Are you an empty-nester, a woman who took care of her sick parents, tended to her husband and his career, and did anything and everything for her children? And now that your children are old enough, your husband seems to be doing just fine without you, and your parents have passed away… are you now trying to find yourself?

Are you one of these women who gave up their life for others, and who wants to start living for yourself now? Are you an empty-nester, a woman who took care of her sick parents, tended to her husband and his career, and did anything and everything for her children? And now that your children are old enough, your husband seems to be doing just fine without you, and your parents have passed away… are you now trying to find yourself?

I can only cheer you on, and applaud you! Life coaches around the world are standing by, and are ready to give you advice on self-care, self-love, and confidence. Health coaches offer you tons of programs for your health, hormone balance, and best exercises.

And I am here to tell you that you need ONE, ONE VERY IMPORTANT STEP before you dive into the sea of opportunities and new possibilities: You need to claim your life back where you checked it decades ago.

Imagine your life as a beautiful coat that you check at the door when entering a new phase, because you see that you won’t be able to wear it for the next year or so while you become a mother and will have to sacrifice sleep and me-time, let alone time for your spouse. But while you are busy being a mom, your parents grow older and soon you also take care of them. You might also be standing by while your partner is climbing the career ladder, and you take care of the house and home. Once this “phase” in your life is over, decades have passed by. Was it worth it? I can imagine that you have a YES! for most parts, and maybe a No for other. But what now? Where did your life go?

You start reading about other women who started their “second” life, after sacrificing for others, after living only for others. You are inspired to do as they did. You are ready to live your Life!

But if you now go out and into this new world of self-love, me-time, self-confidence without picking up your beautiful coat at the entrance… you are trying to live without your life.

And that’s when I meet my clients who feel stuck, don’t seem to move forward. They faithfully take every course under the sun to find their power, their voice, their self-worth… only to feel small, stuck, and in doubt whether they can be as successful as these other beautiful, strong women.

They can! But they first need to get their life back from all these places where they left it.

In our session I usually have them imagine tobe standing in front of the person who they “sacrificed” their life for. I let them exchange a few, profound healing sentences that acknowledge the “sacrifice” out of love.

With the good deeds of helping others, we on one hand let our personal needs go… and yet, on the other hand we become bigger than the person we are helping. We often take charge, when the other person shows up needy, and is less capable. In the event of our parents becoming weaker, and us taking charge, we naturally appear to be the “big ones” and our parents the “small ones”.

Just like a river flows from the top of the mountain downhill, life forces are passed on from the bigger (older) person to the smaller (younger) one. When a child assumes the position as the “bigger one”, it can’t receive the benefits of life from their parents. The flow of life is reversed. This leaves a client drained, fatigued, and without energy for their own life.

Once we bring order to who came first, and who really gives life to whom, the client often feels much more grounded, at peace, and less burdened. They find a new perspective on how much they want and can help, and discover that their love exchange is not connected to the amount of support and help they want to offer.

So let’s get your beautiful “life coat”! I can help you retrieve it, in case you don’t know where you left it 😉

It’s time for Your Life!